EI, EI, oh, oh, ooohh! (with thanks to Dru Marland for the inspiration)

I tweeted yesterday that researchers at King’s College have shown that women with higher Emotional Intelligence scores enjoy more orgasms than their ‘sisters’.  I did that as a sort of tongue in cheek tweet because, as we all know, sex sells and I have a book out there!  However, there is a serious point to be made here and it’s all about the communication between the mind and the body.

 In golf – and, if you’ve read my website, you’ll see that I know a bit about it, even though I don’t play it – they say that the most important six inches in the game is the distance between your ears.  That’s because you win or lose in your head before you even move an inch.  With any sport, apart from the positive mental attitude you need to win, you also need excellent muscle memory, which means that you will replicate that perfect swing, move or putt every time.  It’s all about your mind visualising and then your body putting that reality (remembering that your subconscious can't tell the difference between the imagined and the real) into practice. 

 Similarly, with sex, the body may initially be willing but, if the mind isn’t engaged, forget it.  I don’t want to turn into Dr Ruth, but sex really is all about the mind and allowing yourself to ‘be'.  If you can’t ever ‘let go’ of your rational mind and lose yourself in the moment, how can you experience a sensation that, literally, makes no sense?  An orgasm is a mix of the physical and spiritual and there’s no room for the critical voice, rational thought or the mundane.  The EI word for today, then, is ‘appropriate’.  The bedroom (or wherever) is no place for the shopping list  - apparently most women’s favourite activity while engaging in the act for the sake of it – or wondering whether the kids have games tomorrow.  If you can’t shut out the critical voice that’s telling you that the skirting board needs dusting or that he really needs to clip his nose hairs, it’s unlikely that your earth is going to move.

So, ladies, if you want to enjoy mind-blowing climaxes, allow yourself to just be. I don’t have a specific visualisation in the book for sexual abandon (although, if enough people ask, I’ll write one!) but there are plenty on getting in touch with your intuition or core being, which is all you need.  And, if at first you don’t succeed, keep trying – the practising could be rather stimulating….

 

Comments

[Dru]

..and thank you! -yes, total agreement here...